Connection, Courage, Inner Freedom, spiritual, True Self

Be – Do – Have

We are conditioned to Do in order to have the things we desire so that we can ultimately experience happiness. As a student at the University of Santa Monica, in the master’s program of Spiritual Psychology, I was introduced to the concept of Be – Do – Have. The more I practice residing in the heart of who I am as a spiritual being the more I am attuned to the power of BEING. As I center in my being ness and then take action from that place inside, I am aware of greater ease and grace, showing up in my daily life.

Most of my life, the focus has been on taking actions and doing. My personal experience is one of effort and struggle as I took actions in order to have what it was I thought I wanted so that I could experience peace and joy. I struggled to get what I wanted which was ultimately joy. I thought that if I completed my to – do list I would be at peace. But that rarely happened. I experienced moments of relief when I accomplished the items on my to-do list. Invariably the relief was short lived. There was always more to do. Such the nature of being human.

As I connect and reside in the infinite consciousness of my Self II am noticing actions coming from a place of inspiration. As I take actions from inspiration (In-Spirit) I am aware of greater ease and grace. It has taken many years to connect to the place inside that is eternal, peaceful and expansive. The number one method I have used to connect to my Presence is Spiritual Exercises. Through my doctorate program I learned that the only wrong way to do Spiritual Exercises was to not do them. I began with 2 minutes and over time built up to 2 hours a day. It was through commitment and accountability to my SELF that I maintained a practice of daily spiritual exercises.. The more I spent time in connection with my True Self through spiritual exercises the more I experienced changes in my life. Everything that no longer served my True Self had to go.

I was married at the time to an active alcoholic who acted as if he were sober. He was lying to everyone including himself, I suppose. The more I became connected to my divinity, the more I became self empowered to live according to my values and Soul’s calling. The more I connected to my SELF and lived my Soul’s calling the more the relationship crumpled. He succumbed to his addictions due to his unresolved shame. It wasn’t long before I left the marriage. There was no choice but to leave. When you claim your inner inheritance as an extension of Universal Creation there is no choice but to let go of negativity. Negativity can be your own addictions or someone else addictions. Negativity of any form resided in against-ness. As we connect to the eternal Source of our being-ness it is a given that against-ness no longer serves us or our lives.

When you begin or expand your spiritual life it is common for your life to shift in ways that bring you to your knees. The ego is devastated. The Essence of your Divine Self is elated. Pain is the touch stone of spiritual growth and expansion. In my doctorate program we are reminded to use everything for our learning, growth and upliftment. The greatest pain yields the greatest blessings. Today I am freer than I have ever been. I am residing more often in my Essence of the pure Self. I am braver, calmer, happier and more faithful. I am slowly but surely making spiritual progress. Oh by the way, as you connect more spiritually, there are those who will try to tear you down. There will be those in your past who will throw your human-ness and errors of your ego in your face. They will try to destroy you with your past human-ness. Stay strong in your inner knowing that ultimately “You do not exist.”

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Authenticity, Compassion, Connection, Courage, Depression, goals, Inner Freedom, Perfectionism, Recovery, relationships, Shame, spiritual, True Self, Vulnerability

Recovering Perfectionist

Yes. It is true! I am a recovering perfectionist. I didn’t know for a long time what was creating incredible discomfort inside of myself. It was shame. A sense of feeling defective, bad and wrong. The shame that fuels perfectionism is overwhelmingly stressful and toxic to our whole being. This stress creates havoc on all levels physically, emotionally, mentally, financially, relationally and spiritually. Shame tells us we are bad. Guilt tells us we have done something bad or wrong and we can make amends. Shame is destructive and pervasive in our homes, work environments, media and in our culture.

In order to begin healing from perfectionism we need to address shame. Shame thrives in judgment and secrecy. It is important to dissolve shame storms with the support of our friends. As we share our experiences of shame we begin to heal in the openness of allowing ourselves to be human. As human beings we all make mistakes and have many opportunities for growth and learning. We are all worthy of love and respect, gentleness and kindness. We are all challenged with life and various circumstances. Our human-ness is our common bond. We all suffer from shame. Shame and blame are conditioned patterns and ways of being inside ourselves and with others until we commit to healing the shame that binds us. Whenever we are coming from of place of against-ness it is usually within the energy field of shame. “You are doing it wrong.” “Who do you think you are?” “I’m right, you’re wrong.”etc.

Shame fuels depression, eating disorders, anxiety disorders, addictions, perfectionism, gambling, compulsive work and OCD. It is a pervasive feeling of not good enough. As a recovering perfectionist it is important to allow ourselves to make mistakes. We learn to be gentle with ourselves. We allow ourselves to be flawed, human and imperfect.

Everyday it is a practice of being honest, vulnerable and genuine. It is a courageous act to be vulnerable. It is also very rewarding. Vulnerability and authenticity creates connection. I encourage you to try vulnerability with those you feel safe. Take baby steps and tell the truth. Share your inner most experience with someone you trust. Shame dissipates when shared with others. Most importantly be compassionate with yourself and others. We are all doing our best. We do better when we know better.

Remember you are worthy of love no matter what. Love does not depend on being perfect. Love is your inherent birthright. Spiritually speaking you are LOVE. The Universal impulse is that of LOVE. You are LOVE.

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